I have been bummed in some ways that we had to wait until May to start another round of IVF. On Friday, I figured out why God may have delayed this. I am currently covering a maternity leave in which the therapist was suppose to come back to work in early May at least 3 days a week (previously she was 5 days). This Friday she came into the office with her baby and talked with administration. She is not coming back this school year. That simple fact has increased my workload at least double if not triple since now I am in charge of all the end of the year paperwork, summer programs, evaluations, meetings, and make-up time from my hospitalization and mono absence.
I also tutor in handwriting and recently have had a lot of calls and emails asking for me to help various children. I usually avoid starting kids now and try to have them wait for the summer as my work is usually extremely busy this time of year. Since I thought Jackie was returning to work in a few weeks, I have started 3 more students which takes a lot of time.
So, I am praying that May will be our month that IVF will be a go and it will work. I have to remember that I can give my best at work but I can't kill myself giving all my energy to my job if I want to have kids. My new motto is do my best, do what needs to be done, but don't be perfect or a "miracle worker." I will get all the therapy time in for these kids, try to teach them a few things, and help them see that working on their fine motor skills can be fun.
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Friday, April 9, 2010
Postponed....
Sorry for the month delay of no communication. Todd kept wanting to do shared risk and so I folded. I was trying to hear God on this but... Todd's voice was loud so I never could hear anything else.
When we were in the middle of our first IVF attempt, Todd had severe stomach pain around my retrieval but he didn't want to go to the hospital and "waste all that money." He also was extremely upset when he had a 99 temp one night while I didn't think anything of it. He was in the hospital the weekend that I started my period which showed us, it didn't work. We neve knew what was the issue.
Well, now we know. I was in the hospital in March for four days. I had a low grade fever but within 6 hours I was severely dehydrated. This past month I have had a lot of tests done with everything "normal." Several days ago, the doctor called at 9:30 to inform us that although we had two prior tests which showed I didn't have mono, that I had mono recently. Looking at how adults respond (chest pains, blood pressure/rate issues, etc as well as a 30-50 days after exposure that symptoms appear), we are pretty sure that is what Todd also had and why I got it. It is so rare to get this when you are an adult since most have the antibodies in their blood. We decided that we didn't kiss enough people in our teens.
So the doctor told me that since my liver enzymes are high that we should talk to the RE about doing IVF this month (which Todd had planned all along since he thinks we are having twin on Feb. 18-- who knows where he gets these things!). Todd called and talked with the nurse and she said everything was fine and no issues of starting the IVF. I had already emailed the doctor about it earlier and today the same nurse called and said we needed to wait a cycle. The difference-- I personally think it was the "shared risk" where they don't want to waste a cycle if my system is out of sorts but willing to try if it was all us :)
When we were in the middle of our first IVF attempt, Todd had severe stomach pain around my retrieval but he didn't want to go to the hospital and "waste all that money." He also was extremely upset when he had a 99 temp one night while I didn't think anything of it. He was in the hospital the weekend that I started my period which showed us, it didn't work. We neve knew what was the issue.
Well, now we know. I was in the hospital in March for four days. I had a low grade fever but within 6 hours I was severely dehydrated. This past month I have had a lot of tests done with everything "normal." Several days ago, the doctor called at 9:30 to inform us that although we had two prior tests which showed I didn't have mono, that I had mono recently. Looking at how adults respond (chest pains, blood pressure/rate issues, etc as well as a 30-50 days after exposure that symptoms appear), we are pretty sure that is what Todd also had and why I got it. It is so rare to get this when you are an adult since most have the antibodies in their blood. We decided that we didn't kiss enough people in our teens.
So the doctor told me that since my liver enzymes are high that we should talk to the RE about doing IVF this month (which Todd had planned all along since he thinks we are having twin on Feb. 18-- who knows where he gets these things!). Todd called and talked with the nurse and she said everything was fine and no issues of starting the IVF. I had already emailed the doctor about it earlier and today the same nurse called and said we needed to wait a cycle. The difference-- I personally think it was the "shared risk" where they don't want to waste a cycle if my system is out of sorts but willing to try if it was all us :)
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